Christmas can be a really difficult period for revert Muslims for many reasons. Some reverts have been completely disowned by their family and this period only reminds them of that and makes it hurt all the more.
For other reverts, their relationship with their family is strained. Spending time with their family at Christmas can be a crucial way of maintaining ties. Many reverts may continue to celebrate with their family by spending time with them and giving gifts.
A lot of people here in this country celebrate Christmas in a purely cultural form and is primarily about family being together. If reverts tell their families they cannot do this with them anymore, they can be met by hurt and misunderstanding; making the relationship extremely strained or even worse.
Being constantly scolded by Muslims for spending time with family at Christmas does not help. It’s very easy to say to someone ‘you can’t celebrate Christmas, it’s haram’ but you can’t possibly understand the situation from their point of view.
Can you imagine ostracising yourself from your own family when they are all coming together. Some families only do this once a year. Can you imagine what that feels like or what it would feel like for your family to have that done to them, for a reason they can’t understand?
Just because our families are not Muslim, it does not mean that they mean any less to us.
If you know any reverts, please just spare a thought, a prayer, a portion of your sympathy or a moment of your time for them during this period rather than a harsh tongue.