It’s Okay to Not be Okay

Sometimes, in fact rather often, people need to be reminded of the fact that it is okay to not be okay. 

Today’s super fast paced and social media centred society does not like to let us remember it – but it is normal, it is good and it is fine to not be fine. It is impossible to be  happy or content or even borderline satisfied, all of the time. There can never be a point in which you will stop facing obstacles and trials in life. 

When you’re young, you think to yourself; oh school and life and family so complicated, I can’t wait to be an adult and have my own life all sorted out. Gradually as you get older you start to realise, okay, so there is no point and no age you reach at which finally, your life will have reached a permanent and stable state of ‘perfect’ or even good.

Life is a constant state fluctuation. Good things come to you and they get taken away. Bad things happen to you and you overcome them. Even if 99% of your life is ‘together’ that other 1% might completely knock you down. 

Social media means it is impossible not to compare your own life and situation to those you see broadcasted everywhere; people that are close to you, your family and friends, as well as complete strangers and/or celebrities. It’s so easy to say you won’t and don’t compare yourself to the lives you see on social media but it is so much harder for this to be a reality. Even the tiniest, most seemingly insignificant comparison can have more of an impact on you than you realise. 

Every now and then make sure you give yourself a break from social media. Don’t spend your time browsing when it is of no benefit to you. Cut down on your time looking at other people’s lives and it would have a positive impact on your own life. The more time you spend focusing on yourself and your own goals, the less time you have to worry about what other people are doing and in particular, measure up the two.

People might appear to have every aspect of their life completely sorted out, they might seem to be happy all of the time; but this is not sustainable. Eventually, as human nature derives, the individual will seek more and will not be satisfied with what they have. Nothing is permanent in this life; not bliss nor affliction. So whatever is going on in your life, whether it is a dip or a high, it will change and it will change continuously and that is how it is supposed to be.




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